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Romance Is Not Dead — Yet

By Emily Shire

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In 21st-century dating, is romance dead?

Recently, a series of major articles have raised the alarms on the demise of dating and marriage. Alex Williams’ New York Times piece “The End of Courtship” lamented the death of traditional, chivalrous dating, and Amy Webb’s Wall Street Journal story encouraged women to stretch the truth in their online dating profiles lest all the good men pass them by. In response to Dan Slater’s new book about technology’s effect on dating, “Love in the Time of Algorithms,” The Atlantic ran a series on online dating and whether or not it’s destroying monogamy. Each one heralded the end of romance, flowers on a first date, and all that Hugh Grant movies taught us to revere and expect.

However, even after my many negative 21st-century dating experiences, I don’t think dating and romance are dead; rather, they have evolved.

What people talking about the death of dating often forget is that for a long time, marriage existed primarily as an economic rather than romantic institution (see Stephanie Koontz’s Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage for more specifics). Dating has already evolved in response to economic and social changes to be more informal and varied in its ultimate romantic goal. For some, marriage isn’t even the endgame.

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Want To Attract a Guy on JDate?

By Elissa Strauss

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What does the ideal single Jewish woman look like?

Want to attract a Jewish guy online?

Let’s start with the bad news:

  1. Don’t be accomplished, be aspirational.
  2. Don’t sound mature.
  3. Don’t talk too much.
  4. Don’t be tall.
  5. Don’t be fat.
  6. Don’t be funny, because you will come off sarcastic.
  7. Don’t mention work, or any professional accomplishments.

And for the the good news: You CAN be aggressive. But only insofar as you can message dates before they message you. That’s it.

This is according to writer Amy Webb who recently wrote about her research on the online dating patterns of guys on JDate and Match.com for the Wall Street Journal. Webb credits her use of these insights to snag a date from a guy named Brian who she ended up marrying.

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Sex, Sandy and Gaming JDate

By Abigail Jones

Each month, Forward editor-in-chief Jane Eisner hosts The Salon, a conversation with Rachel Sklar of Change the Ratio and other Jewish women about life, love, politics and everything in between. In the latest episode, Sisterhood contributor Sarah Seltzer discusses lessons from Hurricane Sandy; Amy Webb, author of “Data, A Love Story,” talks about how she gamed JDate to meet her perfect mate; Dr. Jennie Rosenfeld, co-author of “Et Le’ehov: The Newlywed’s Guide to Physical Intimacy,” about sex education in the Orthodox community, and all five chime in on the Jewish vote and election 2012. Check out all of the clips here.

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